Can’t attend your wedding? Most people want to have the wedding of their dreams. It’s your one day, so you want to make it memorable.
This could mean all of the relatives you rarely speak to attending, a build your own sandwich bar, or a bluegrass band that plays 90’s music. Whatever weird stuff you’re into, I won’t judge. It’s your day after all.
However, COVID-19 has likely put a wrench in your grand plans. Some people have had their weddings over Skype, which hardly seems like a day to remember.
Can’t attend a wedding last minute
As a family law expert, this begs an interesting question. Do you have to attend your wedding in person? If you were not in Canada, could someone be your “agent” at the ceremony? Minus the kiss of course.
When you want to get married in Canada, you first get your marriage license (at London Drugs in some provinces) and then have a wedding ceremony ( normally not on Skype). As the last step, within two days of the wedding, the person that conducts your wedding will send off the paperwork to the Vital Statistics Agency. Once it’s been registered, you are married! The first step really should have been to sign a marriage agreement.
You are then free to determine if you were meant to be or not, hire a law firm if not, and start the multiyear divorce process. It is easy to get married, hard to get divorced.
Getting married is so easy, that when it comes time for the ceremony, you might not even have to show up at all. There is something called a proxy marriage. It is normally used when someone is in the navy and is away at sea for an entire year.
Hiring An Agent To Attend The Ceremony
Someone can stand in for you at the ceremony. However, you need to sign paperwork with your agent, the person that is representing you at the ceremony.
Some people in the military want to get married quickly because it can lead to increased pay or benefits. The military person’s spouse might get health benefits as well. This could easily be worth over $10,000 over a one-year period.
Sometimes proxy marriages are used in unique situations. This can include people in jail, during COVID-19, or with forest firefighters than are away for many months at a time.
You can get married without attending, but you won’t be able to enjoy the marriage ceremonies ambience of mason jars, Facebook photo booths, and an overpriced wedding cake. Can’t attend your wedding? Do the best you can.
Alistair Vigier is the CEO of ClearWay Law, a website that connects people with attorneys.