Is marriage dying? What is the solution? People don’t just get married for love. For thousands of years, it has been a way to live a better life. Living together and sharing resources is much more cost-efficient than living apart.
It is possible that one day only middle-class people who are trying to get into the upper class will get married.
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Is Marriage Dying?
People are getting married later because they do not feel they are able to attain wealth. If someone is living at home, and just making ends meet, they might not be a wealth mindset.
We do not believe the decline in marriage is because of cohabitating couples not registering their marriage.
There is also a trend for people to become more individualistic.
If it’s true that marriage is dying, then what will the new norm be?
Cohabitation is an increasingly popular choice. Most people want to live together, share costs, and have a sexual relationship. This couple can either be the same-sex or opposite sex.
Cohabitation does mean that the couple is living in a marriage-like relationship without being married. The term implies more than “just friends” and the couple would be sexual.
Marriage is hard, and it takes a lot of work. People call our company with ideas that come from movies. We get asked questions like “does she get half my stuff?” and “how much support do I have to pay?” many times a day.
The lawyer’s answer is always the same, we don’t know until we sit down with you to discuss your situation. We need to go over everything for at least an answer to get an idea of asset division and support payments.
Many callers want quick answers. No lawyer can give you an accurate answer quickly until they know your entire situation. Instead of getting quick answers, we suggest you get accurate answers.
We also encourage you to be open to spending a few thousand dollars on legal fees. This might save you tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars in asset division payments or spousal support payments in the future.
Don’t save pennies and end up paying large amounts of dollars.
An open relationship
For those that are not familiar with what a polyamorist is, it is often called an open relationship. It is different from bigamy which means being married to two people at once and is illegal.
One or both spouses date and/or sleep with more than one person but it is not considered “cheating.” This is because all parties agree and there are no secrets. Sometimes it is simply defined as non-monogamy or an open relationship.
People that engage in these kinds of relationships often believe it is important to be with more than one person to be happy. They may have tried a monogamous marriage for several years and want to do something adventurous.
Different people have different sexual preferences. Regardless of your relationship style, we are here to assist you with your legal issues. You need to make sure you are legally protected, as divorce can be very expensive.
Divorce Rates for Polyamorist Relationships
Divorce rates are high as many people try to be polyamorous instead of getting a divorce. This means that the marriage is likely already broken at the time of entering the open marriage.
They are doing it to try and save their relationship. Many times it is only a temporary fix.
One of the main reasons for divorce is that if someone has multiple relationships they have to divide their limited time between multiple partners.
If someone works 9-5 pm and then does errands until 7 pm, they might only have three hours of time to spend with their loved one. Which loved one deserves their time?
Is marriage dying? We hope not.
Having sex with someone else
What about on Christmas or Valentine’s Day? Jealousy can occur because of a lack of attention even if it doesn’t occur because of your spouse having sex with someone else. What if there is a big event planned, who should you bring?
Some people might be okay with sexual activity with multiple people but what about emotional cheating? Is it okay to send a valentine’s day card to someone else?
Be very careful entering into a polyamorist relationship to save your marriage. Everyone has their own definition of cheating.
Is Marriage Dying? Living with multiple people
Are you living with multiple people or entering into a marriage-like relationship with someone else? Make sure to get a cohabitation agreement done. Make sure your marriage agreement is updated if needed.
You don’t want to get caught up in a complicated common law and divorce claim involving asset division, spousal support and possibly even child support.
Sometimes if a non-biological parent treats a child as if they were the parent, the law might make them pay child support. Never just assume you understand family law. It’s extremely complex and changes all the time.
Author: Alistair Vigier is the CEO of ClearWay Law