Marriage should last forever if the vows exchanged by couples are to be believed, yet 40% of Canadians married for the first time will see their marriages end in divorce. Raising a family and learning how to deal with the everyday pressures of living as a couple can become overwhelming for some people and result in a breakup. What causes one couple to decide to call it quits and seek a divorce might not have the same impact on another couple, but here are some of the most common reasons couples decide to end their marriages.
Learning that your spouse has cheated on you can be emotionally devastating and impossible to forgive. One of the grounds a person may use to file for a divorce in Ontario is adultery.
Adultery is defined as a fault ground for because you must prove your spouse was at fault in causing the breakdown of the marriage. Proving adultery can be difficult because it requires evidence of a sexual relationship between your spouse and the other person.
You might have proof that your spouse openly engaged in a non-sexual dating relationship with another person. While unable to prove adultery, you might be able to use it as proof of mental cruelty. Physical or mental cruelty that makes it intolerable for you to continue to reside with your spouse is another of the fault grounds for obtaining a divorce.
Meeting the financial burden of supporting a family and a household can put enormous strains on a relationship. Arguments and bickering over finances can be exacerbated when the earning capacity of one spouse is considerable higher than the other party.
Unfulfilled expectations about married life
Couples who have never been married before may have unrealistic expectations about what life will be like after the wedding. The routine of married life can pale in comparison to relationship couples experienced during the dating and courtship.
Physical and mental abuse
People tend to be on their best behavior while dating. You might not discover until after the wedding that the person you married is prone to violent outbursts or is controlling and emotionally abusive.
Physical abuse can be easier to identify than emotional abuse. Among the signs that you might be in an emotionally abusive relationship are the following:
- Negative or derogatory comments about your appearance
- Limiting your access to friends and family members
- Controlling or limiting your use of social media
- Being overly jealous and controlling your ability to leave the house alone
Episodes of physical and emotional abuse can be used to establish physical and mental cruelty in order to file for divorce.
A lawyer can help
You do not have to suffer through constant arguments, bickering or abuse in your marriage. A lawyer versed in family law can offer options to help you. Separation and divorce offer you a means of escaping from a physically or emotionally unhealthy relationship regardless of the reasons behind the failure of the marriage. Contact a family lawyer now for advice and guidance.